All women have one. Or do we?
Lately, my mind has been flooded by interesting conversations with women based around their wants and needs in their relationships with men.
Conversation after conversation, I hear how the men in their lives just don't seem to understand their want out of a casual relationship. It seems men have been conditioned to feel that all women want the white picket fence, one boy one girl, married at 25, don't-leave-me-ever-after-date-one life.
But, I can tell all of you men out there--that's just not true. I think...
I am surrounded by strong, single, independent and fabulous women who want nothing more than to spend their free time with someone that they enjoy, that they have fun with, that they --dare I say it--like! Not love.
And instead of a man listening to these women when they explain their needs in the relationship are not all of the above, it's almost always ignored. The women are always left dumbfounded as to where the missed communication was.
So why is that so difficult to understand, men? Why must you all think that we want the fairytale at every minute of our lives? Are you all conditioned to think we are all really that crazy? Which brings me to my next point...
Are we, ladies?
As much as we try to be casually cool and independent, do we all deep down all have a crazy gene that flairs it's ugly head every now and then in our relationships to remind us that yes, biologically, maybe we as women are constantly trying to find our match to settle down in the house behind that white picket fence, pop out one boy and one girl, get married at 25, and never-ever-leave-after-date-one?
For example, girl dates boy. Boy doesn't call girl immediately after date. Girl is calm, cool and collected when telling her friends "It's casual, it's totally fine, I'm actually glad he's not being obsessive." Days pass. Girl is not so calm, cool and collected any longer. "Why wouldn't he call me? I mean, I know I don't want him to but, why wouldn't he want to?"
The crazy gene has arrived.
It's a tale as old as time. We always start with the best intentions of being strong, independent women capable of relationships where casual, actually means casual. And then, before you know it you're all bijiggity. You care.
Deep down you may not want all of the above as a woman but, you definitely want him to want it with you, right? Which makes you just as crazy as you didn't want to be!
So what do we think ladies? Do we all have it?