Who doesn't love a list? As someone who works in social media, I can tell you--everyone. Generally, lots of us live our lives by lists. Grocery lists, to-do lists, invitation lists, lists of goals...Numbers in a line to remind us to do something, strive for something, continue something--to not forget.
So when an overly-emotional "List of things I will tell my Daughter" arises on the interwebs, it's an experience for all of us. This list, this thing that provides non-dimensional structure and direction, has taken another form--a fluid, emotional, beautiful list serving as a gentile life guideline.
I'd like to have a gentle life guideline, something to refer to and remember all of the things that my twenty-five year old self loved, appreciated, saw value in, learned. A list to reference when I am thirty-five, and things haven't turned out the way I might have thought they would.
I want to remember...
1. Yoga. A lot of it.
2. Friendship. Your real friends will show you who they are, and that they value you. Your best friends, will be your backbone, your lifeline and your constant so don't take it for granted. Make sure to show them who you are and that you value them too.
3. Do things that you don't want to do as much as you can. Some of the best experiences you've had in twenty-five years are those you went out on a limb to enjoy.
4. And when you can't, don't do things you don't want to do.
5. Buy the shoes, bag, jeans whatever-- if you can. Someday it won't be all about you, at twenty-five, it is.
6. Mom will always be the best. Best friend, best advice-giver, best companion.
7. You will never be 100 pounds. Ever. But that's OK. Eat healthy, work out and sometimes you should eat pizza, enjoy ice cream and sit on a couch all day, too.
8. Don't be so judgemental. It takes all kinds. Try to see something in everyone. That doesn't mean everyone has to be for you, though.
10. Don't fake it. If you don't like someone, then don't. But leave it at that. Shit talking is not an attractive trait (done inside of best friends though, it's totally acceptable).
11. Instagram will make you look awesome, filter the shit out of your life. But, it will also make you look kind of self-centered (Hey, Selfies!) Capture memories everywhere.
12. Puppy and kitty snuggles can cure even the most awful of heartache, sadness and the common cold-- fur is great for mopping up tears.
13. Give. Give to charities you care about, people in need, friends. Give yourself, and your things as much as you can.
14. Work is work. But, there is an entire life you live outside of work that should be filled with passions, and things you can't live without. Don't waste all of your time recovering from your week. Do things!
15. Your work should be a passion too. Don't forget, it's not all about the money. You love this.
16. In the words of Kid President, "Sometimes you get ice cream and sometimes you don't". When you don't, chalk it up as a loss and move on. Don't dwell too long on anything, over thinking is over rated.
17. Stillness can change your life. Sometimes you just need to sit, unmoved in a room with your thoughts and see what happens.
18. Cause some trouble, make a little noise. Fight for yourself, and things you care about.
19. Support women. Jealousy is not cute and a direct reflection of no one but- you.
20. Surround yourself with love and light. There is enough that will bring you down, and stress you out in life. You don't need to sit in the middle of it.
21. Karma is REAL.
22. Leopard print is absolutely a neutral and Ray-Bans will never go out of style (Oh and crop tops can't work over 28).
23. Tattoos are great memories.
24. Grief doesn't get easier, ever. But the body and mind are resilient and can heal like you couldn't even imagine.
25. Every year is a blessing, your life is a blessing. Don't take it for granted, live it how it should be lived and celebrate!
Happy Birthday Week to my new, Twenty-Five Year Old Self.